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Fathers: How to Discipline Your Children

Published: Wednesday, 11 June 2014 Written by Super User

And the Word of God says:

People were also bringing babies to Jesus for him to place his hands on them. When the disciples saw this, they rebuked them. But Jesus called the children to him and said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”  Luke 18:15-18

Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.  Proverbs 13:24

Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.  Proverbs 29:17

This is Part 2 of a three part series on the accountabilities of Fathers for their children.  Last week, the title of the discussion was “Fathers: You have not obeyed the words of the Bible.”  It was a tense discussion for the need for the Father to be spiritually oriented and spiritually strong.  There must be a firm and deep foundation for the Father to be able to take the action that God would approve.  If you have not read last week’s, I strongly recommend you do.  This week, the discussion will be more specific about disciplining your children.

This may be the last thing that you will ever read from me.  This is because I am strongly convicted about the way God and Jesus view children.  I want that same perspective, and I hope you do too!  As always, we have to see what the Bible is saying about disciplining your children.

Also, we must always see that there is the worldly way of looking at discipline, and then there is God’s way. This discussion on disciplining children will continue into the next week.  There is a huge difference between punishment and discipline. I will say up-front that punishment should be seldom if ever used on a child.  On the other hand, discipline should have a daily application to children.  Let me explain.

Punishment is exactly that. You punish your child for something they did in the past. However, with punishment, there are no attempts on your part to teach or train your child about what they did wrong.  Also, most of the time, punishment comes from your anger directed toward your child.  Never, ever attempt to punish a child while you are angry. There is so much damage to relationships that eventually cannot be overcome.

After discovering a wrong that your child has done, you should make doubly sure that you are not angry.  If you are, get away from the child and cool down.  Otherwise, you may regret something you say or do.  We are talking about little children that are much smaller than you.  Your physical force driven by anger is not an acceptable way to treat a child.

You must never forget that children are very special to God. They are innocent and vulnerable. His judgment on those adults who abuse children is extremely severe.

“If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.  Matthew 18:6

In a way, all children belong to God and are on loan to parents.  God expects parents to nurture and protect children.  According to the verses above, the other expectation God has for parents is to educate them on who God is. This is probably the biggest failure of Christian fathers, because it is so easy to leave it to the wife.  Christian fathers need to live a Christ-like life to be able to teach their children.  You talk to your children about how God has been a part of your life since you can remember. This is so important to a young child’s development.  It is mind blowing to discover that your child tells other children about your relationship with God.

 

Next week is the final discussion of the accountabilities of the Father to their children.  It is titled, “Fathers: Do not exasperate your children”.  I hope you are beginning to see your children, all children, as God sees them.  I also pray that your relationship with your children has begun to change in a way that is bringing you spiritual joy and peace with your interactions with them.

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